Control and manipulation should never – and I mean NEVER – be a part of love.
True Love is a free expression of caring for another individual – with very little judgement and all the feelings of warm fuzzies and genuine care for that individual’s well-being.
Well-being being the key factor. That you care about their well-being MORE than your own selfish desires when it comes to them.
Which means that naturally you wouldn’t be trying to control or manipulate them into doing something that they don’t want to do just to satisfy some selfish “need” you have.
Love is mutual and love is enjoyable. It’s the ultimate “I have your back.” So – if someone is manipulating you, they definitely aren’t loving you. They definitely don’t have your back – they have their OWN.
Pressure is not a part of love. Ever.
Reconsider being in a relationship where you feel pressured in any way shape or form – or if you feel bad about yourself for standing up for something you don’t want to do.
It’s your life and your happiness and only you can determine what you will and will not do.
One thing that I have heard come up over and over again from the women I have helped uncover cheating partners is they were many times pressured into the idea of having a threesome. Whether or not it actually happened was a different thing – but many time their partners would pressure this idea on them and try to get them to agree to be in a threesome with another woman.
I can’t stress this enough – THIS IS A MAJOR RED FLAG!
First of all – this is a completely disrespectful request when you are in any kind of monogamous relationship. If the relationship is monogamous then this should never come into question! You have agree to have just one partner – each other. For a woman to want another man or a man to want another woman while in this kind of relationship breaks the foundation that it is already agreed upon. It’s hurtful!
And second of all – you should NEVER be pressured into anything sexual that you don’t want to do. Even something you are on the fence about. If someone is pressuring you about something of this nature they DO NOT respect you, and I would even go so far as to say I am not sure if they even care about you or your feelings.
It’s is 100% OK to say no to a threesome if it makes you feel jealous or uncomfortable. Most normal people in a monogamous relationship completely understand this and it is never a question.
If your partner then gets mad or keeps bringing it up – this is COMPLETELY and UNQUESTIONINGLY disrespectful and hurtful. If you have agreed to be in a monogamous relationship you shouldn’t have to be faced with the fact over and over again that your partner would also like to be with someone else other than you.
It screams “You are not enough!” and I am telling you right now – YOU ARE ENOUGH – this person you are with is just an asshole.
This can be a huge red flag that they are possibly already cheating on you.
If they are that eager to bring up being with another person over and over again, it’s on their mind a lot and they are fantasizing about it a lot. They may have already done it or be in an affair that you don’t know about right now.
If you’d love to find out please give me a call and I would be happy to let you know how I can help you gather the information you need to know – that they don’t want you to know! To find out if they are indeed cheating on you.
Leave me a detailed message or email and I will get back to you as soon as I can.
612-222-1121
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Sincerely,
Rowan