When a lion roars you hear it, there is no denying it. And it can be very upsetting… if you are the one caught in a lie.
I once caught someone in a lie and I just lightly questioned them about it in a totally normal voice but it was like I had roared like a lion because they came back at me screaming and at the height of anger in one moment. They defended themselves so vehemently and almost violently like I had threatened their very life.
And that’s how I knew. They were lying. It was so obvious.
My question was so simple and not threatening that when they had this very disproportionate and shocking reaction I instantly thought “Wow… what are you defending yourself from!?” and when I probed further and did some of my own research I found them in a bold and utter lie, and it was the start of uncovering that he was in fact cheating on me. (Which I didn’t realize then, but he knew that I was picking up the trail because he knew the truth and I had just spoken part of it.)
I can imagine it was terrifying for him. But to me it was just a question spoken in a normal tone of voice and without accusation. He had said he was at his brother’s house and I merely asked how it had been. Turns out he had met up with this other woman for drinks after work behind my back. Ouch.
If you find yourself in this situation where you ask an innocent question and you are met with such a violent response this is a huge clue that you are being lied to in some way. What the person is reacting to is not your question, but their own lie – and whatever it is they may be hiding. They are reacting to the TRUTH that they don’t want to come out.
They may actually accuse you of being suspicious etc, and try to make you feel like the bad guy. It’s important if this is happening, to realize that you just asked a normal question and not feel guilty for normal behavior!! It can be very confusing, but it is deceptive behavior – so it is designed to be confusing. This should be another red flag, not your cue to take on guilt and stop thinking for yourself.
Remember that a lion (the one who has the truth) is more powerful (not less) that’s why the other person feels so thretened. They see your power, the power of the truth, even if you don’t. Yet.
Yours in Truth,
Rowan